Anxiety is a strong and negative feeling. Feeling overwhelmed. Stressed. Or just a general sense of nervousness. Well, we all feel this on some level or the other. The protective father, the nervous traveler or even the developer with a deadline closing in.

When putting things into perspective, anxiety is often a result of caring too much about things that are outside your control. When the protective father wants to protect his child from the dangers of the world, well, then he’ll need to be there ALL the time (and then some!).

Instead, look at what you actually do control. Focus on where you can put your efforts to make the bigger picture look a lot less scary. Know that you are doing what you can with yourself, so when something does happen, you’ll be ready.

It’s also a source of procrastination. It’s a  numbing feeling that will not only fear for something, but also make sure you are going to fail. Unless you take measures to actively put your anxiety into perspective.

Checkout out todays VLOG on Unknown Frontiers & Anxiety.

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The Bigger Picture – Don’t be so emotional!

Emotions tend to take over your day to day life. You experience high’s and low’s. This could be at work, at home, with your friends or maybe even all of the time?

Would you accept if another person pushed you around the same way you allow your emotions to push you around?

How about putting things into perspective. Looking at the big picture and realising that your emotions in this point of time is just a grain of sand compared to your life.

It’s not the end of the world.

Check out the VLOG


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The PAVLOG – a Stoic Vlogging Experiment

Vlogs, or video-logs, some form of regular videos that are focused around a single main character and an aspect of them or their lives (definition: mine). They are by no way a new phenomenon. I’ve recently been watching a few vlogs that have been quite useful. Career-wise and focus-wise. Moreover, I started to follow a person: Gary Vay-Ner-Chuk.

He has a message that’s quite powerful and compelling, which is to own your own brand online. He’s in no way the first, nor the last person to talk about this, but something about the timing was just right. I’ll et more into that in another post.

One of the things I want to do more of in 2017 is explore the video-format on YouTube and also play around with other platforms.

…2 weeks ago I decided to start my very own vlog!

The Daily Stoic

I’m reading a book called the “The Daily Stopic” by Ryan Holiday, where he’s created a consumable way of going through Stoic philosophy. Each chapter is built around a single topic and has a verse from a stopic philosopher, as well as a straight forward explanation.

Even though the topics are short and sraight-forward, not all of the topics are. It takes time to digest and reflect over them, and turning this book into a daily habit has been a struggle.

The Concept

So the concept was born. I’ll dig into a chapter from the stoics every day and present my reflections on them. I also want to package them in an interesting way that will allow others to consume them in bite-size chunks. Hopefully others can listen and share their own reflections, so it becomes a shared learning experience.

YouTube School

I need you to subscribe if you like the concept. It’s a great way to raise awareness around the channel. It’s also great feedback to me that this is something you like and enjoy.As well as subscribing, hit the bell to be notified whenever a new episode is released!

Here I’ll make it easy for you: “Subscribe here!

The Unknown

But back to the “why”… Why YouTube, why daily? Well, because of the challenge. I want to see what’s involved in vlogging. How much effort it takes and learn something new.

I also want to do it on my terms, so I’ll do what I can to get a video out every day, except the weekends. That’s reserved time-off.

Watch it and let me know what you think!

Pitfalls of writing software alone

I’ve published a new story on the Coding with Empathy blog. Here’s an intro.

The power of one

There’s nothing like being able to work on a project by yourself and having complete control of every single aspect of the solution. Everything from the front-end stack to the storage. Using the latest and greatest frameworks and libraries. This is heaven for any software developer. But regardless of any of the above technology-focused aspects, there is one major advantage being that single developer, namely: speed! But there are pitfalls when writing software alone.

When a developer knows every aspect of a system, they have a mental map of the code and the problem domain. They know how the code flows, how business rules are implemented, the architecture and sometimes even the line-numbers of specific functions! Having this mental map is a tremendous advantage, but is only possible because there is no need to communicate with other developers.

Being socially unacceptable

Being the only developer that delivers and end-to-end solution also leads to a feeling of great pride. It’s like being superman. The feeling that people can throw anything at you and you can get it done. Bring on any challenge and you will be up for it. Confidence in your solutions and decisions.

Everything isn’t really shiny in solo-town, though. For many, this ever-growing feeling of confidence can spill over to overconfidence which leads to a larger ego. Egos require constant feeding, and may lead to many interactions that don’t end up going your way in the long run. When challenged you have so much confidence in your approach or opinion that you completely ignore others perspectives. You enter tunnel-vision mode and may end up discussing or even arguing to get your point across. This could be with other developers, leaders, users or even clients. Just because you believe you know what’s right in a given circumstance, doesn’t mean you can force the solution on others. Doing so will alienate everyone else in the process then you’ve started digging a hole in which you’re going to find hard to climb out of.

Some leaders adore these people. They come in, say harsh words that force change then move to the next project. This may be a very efficient way of getting ones point across, but it’s definitely not the most effective in the long run considering all the people who are forced into a decision. Being right doesn’t give you the right to be inconsiderate.

Continue reading on the Coding with Empathy blog.